My partner had a miscarriage. I’m being supportive but I’m devastated too. What should I do
Dealing with a miscarriage is very difficult for both women and men, but often far more attention is given to a woman, and a man’s feelings are simply ignored. However, it’s important that you don’t internalize your loss and do acknowledge your feelings, which may range from feeling scared, disappointed, and out of control, to blaming yourself for not being supportive enough and mourning your loss of identity as a father. Although you want to support your partner, you also need to recognize your own need to grieve, as working through your emotions can help you to come to terms with your loss more quickly. A good support network is also important for both of you and it can help to find a sympathetic listener outside of your relationship. Initially, you may find discussing your feelings with another male easier than talking to your partner. You could also talk to your doctor or to a trained counselor
for additional support